When we were young, we always imagined what our lives would be when we entered adulthood. Dreams about having our own money, driving cars, having our own homes…etc, but as we grow up, our teenage years are shattered by harrowing and cynical reality. We see things in a new light and begin to understand how the world works. We begin to be more of realists instead of dreamers, pessimists instead of optimists yet there’s a spark inside of us that didn’t burn out, adulthood changes everything and while it may look bleak as our characters go through 180-degree development, it’s not always a bad thing to view things differently.
Here’s what adulthood managed to change our take on life.
Take One: Your Parents Are Human & They Are Just as Tired and Confused as You Are
As kids, we saw our parents as indestructible, heroes with no kryptonite to weaken them. They handled everything with such care and ease that when you tried to juggle all the things they’ve done, you couldn’t do it all. However, the sad reality is that they are humans, who did their best to not show any sign of weakness or sadness. Life kept on knocking them down but they always got off the ground with smiles on their faces and a hunger for determination. Our parents were once like us, young, confused, and beaten down by frustrations and obstacles, yet they fought to reach where they were. They know most of life’s answers but not all mysteries are solved.
Take Two: You Don’t Get What You Want, You Get What You Need
Each aspect of our lives is either planned by our parents when we were kids or we took matters into our own hands. As we enter adulthood with dreams to achieve. We plan everything and yet, what we want doesn’t always happen.
We blame ourselves for not doing what we set ourselves to become and end up feeling miserable. What we learn later on in life is that sometimes, we don’t get what we want, but we get something we desperately need.
Take Three: You’re Not Going to Miss Out If You Decided to Nap
Who didn’t hate nap time when we were kids? We shrugged it off and hated to sleep because we wanted to do everything. However, our roaring 20s and work life made us appreciate the beauty of sleeping and taking a day off. The fear of missing out is a myth that we tell ourselves to do so much in little time and feel like we own the world, but can you have the world in the palm of your hands if you’re exhausted?
Not every event is rare and will not happen again, you know what only happens once? Us. so we must take care of ourselves mentally and physically. If we didn’t do anything today, we still have tomorrow to conquer.
Take Four: Showing Vulnerability is a Sign of Strength, not Weakness
One of the many terrible pieces of advice we get as kids is to never show vulnerability and to be always strong. You cannot show weakness or make mistakes. This mindset takes a mental toll on us. In the end, we feel defeated and broken down because we take in so much and do not express ourselves properly. What adulthood taught us is by opening up and healthily expressing ourselves takes courage and strength. To admit what went wrong or what led you to where you are takes guts and it’s the hardest thing to do, so don’t be shy to open up.
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