We’ve all come across that one person who knows how to get along with almost everyone, their presence is delightful, and manage social situations really well. Well, maybe that person is you among your friends. This kind of people make others usually wonder what their secret is.
Some people handle it in social encounters better than others. They know how to keep the flow smooth, respectful, light, and even productive at times. This is what we call social intelligence. While some people are naturally born socially intelligent, luckily the set of skills or traits of a socially intelligent person is something anyone can acquire, with some work of course. And it’s some certain habits that set this type of people apart from other annoying habits of people who might not be as socially savvy. Here are some of the things that a socially smart person would never do or fall into their traps.
1. They never interrupt. Socially intelligent people are good listeners and they don’t presume what you want to say. They never jump in with a know-it-all attitude to lead the conversation. Instead, they leave room for others to share their thoughts, opinions, and experiences, calmly waiting till it’s their turn to engage in the conversation.
2. They never neglect reading their surroundings. They observe and pay attention to their environment before they speak. They don’t come in with a happy story while someone is feeling down or let’s say grieving and they don’t bum people with drama on happy occasions. They select their topics appropriately according to the mood and the surroundings.
3. They don’t show off. They don’t seek to be the center of attention nor keep on bragging about their accomplishments in life. They are aware that insecurities are loud while confidence is silent. They have high self-esteem and they don’t need their egos stroked all the time
4. They never force an opinion or advice. They would share their opinion on certain matters but won’t desperately try to convince you with their opinions or beliefs. They are open-minded enough to accept that people have different ideas. They don’t need others to agree with them to feel good about themselves.
5. They don’t disregard people’s feelings. They show empathy and would never make you feel ashamed of how you feel towards anything. They don’t invalidate other people’s feelings and show understanding even if they can’t relate.
6. They don’t steal other people’s moments. When someone comes with the good news, they don’t steal their thunder by sharing something positive that happened to them and vice versa. When someone speaks about a problem they are facing, they don’t try to top it to get people’s attention instead. They are never story toppers.
7. They don’t judge people and never criticize anyone publicly. They don’t speak poorly or badly of others to make themselves look better. They understand that everyone’s journey in life is different and that no one is in their shoe to know what’s happening behind the curtains. Socially smart people won’t put you under a microscope analyzing the motives behind your every behavior and action. So, instead of judging people who are different from them, they make it an opportunity to listen and learn from their journey.
8. They don’t waste their time and energy arguing about meaningless stuff. They don’t care about proving themselves right every time and they don’t care about making a point every time they speak. When the conversation goes down to a trivial argument over meaningless topics they just let it be.
9. They are calm and composed. Socially intelligent people don’t resort to anger to prove a point and don’t feel the need to be too loud to be heard. Their attitude is always confident, calm, and composed even in heated conversations. They know how to be assertive and not aggressive.
10. They don’t reveal too much. They know what to share, how to say it, and when to say it. They don’t care about filling the air with trivial talk. They think before they speak and question whether what they have to say makes sense or adds value. This is why when they speak it is always impactful