7 Things Women Are Tired of Hearing

In this day and age, it’s hard to accept the fact that women still can't make a choice of their own without being questioned, ridiculed, or criticized. Every day, women are being overburdened with all sorts of inconsiderate remarks, comments, and unsolicited advice, as if a woman’s private life is a matter of public opinion. It is even more hurtful when this type of privacy breach and disrespect of a woman’s life decision is exercised by other women, who supposedly, at some point in their lives, faced the same. This is why we need a reminder, more frequently, about all the things women are tired of hearing.

 

1. ‘You’re beautiful and lovely, how come you are still single?’

While it might be said with good intention, how this is usually received would be ‘You’re beautiful and still single, then there must be something off about you’. People always like to assume that a woman who is beautiful, smart, fun, talented, etc. is by default in a relationship because there are definitely many men out there who want to be with her, taking away the high possibility that this woman rejects many relationships or marriage proposals simply because this is not what she wants for her life at the time being. Such a comment makes it sound like it is her problem that she is still single, placing all the blame on her for her situation.

 

2. ‘The clock is ticking’

Why would anyone give themselves the right to decide for a woman the right time to get married or have kids? It is a pressure added on women from those around her, and the society, that she is late and behind the line. There is nothing wrong with a woman deciding to get married at a young age, and there is equally nothing wrong with a woman deciding to get married later in her life, or even not to get married at all. Every woman is well aware enough of her age and she doesn’t need a reminder that sounds like a ticking bomb, pressuring her to catch up with things in life that are not in time for her yet.

 

3. ‘If only you were more sociable, you would get yourself more suitors.’

Finding the one, for women, was never about putting themselves out there or making themselves available all the time for all kinds of social outings. Asking women to act unlike their nature, meaning trying to become more outgoing or social doesn’t help. In fact, it makes women question the nature of personality, putting more effort into changing what they are like just to find a good man to get into a relationship with. When it is time for a woman to find love, she will find it no matter where or how.

 

4. ‘You’re too picky, that’s why you are still single’

Women shouldn’t be shamed or criticized for not accepting less than what they deserve just to settle. If valuing yourself and understanding your self-worth make you picky, then be it. Having higher standards than those around you doesn’t make you unapproachable, arrogant, or uneasy to please; it simply means that staying single doesn’t scare you nor force you to compromise your self-worth for a relationship.

 

5. ‘Your career can wait, but marriage won’t’

People like to assume that every woman dreams of one thing and one thing only: the wedding day. Maybe back in the early ages of time that was the case, but not anymore. Women have bigger dreams to achieve in life; some want a successful career, some want to travel the world, and some want to invest their time in learning new things. It is still totally ok if a woman has marriage as her top goal, but just that alone doesn’t allow us to assume that every woman wants the same.

 

6. ‘I know a good guy who might still be single.’

Unless a woman asks you to set her up with someone, it is not the nicest thing to offer, whether you are a friend or family member. Such an offer makes a woman feel like she is desperate, sad, and lonely enough for you to try and take her out of her misery.  

 

7. ‘I hope one day you’ll find yourself a good man’

Especially when coming from a married woman, it comes out as someone feeling sorry for your situation that they can’t help but feel sympathy. It is as if they want to remind you how much you are missing out on that they are so very hopeful one day you get to experience what they did and you didn’t. But what if that woman is not really waiting for it? What if she feels already comfortable enough in her life the way it is? What if she is simply not ready for that yet?