Feeling lost and unable to identify whether it is a friendship or a relationship? Wondering why you feel stuck at the same point with nothing moving forward with that specific person? Then maybe you are in a situationship.
You probably have heard the term “situationship” that has popped up in our popular culture, especially between teenagers and young adults. Situationship refers to being in what looks like a romantic relationship with someone without commitment or without being an official couple. In other words, it is that grey area between being more than friends but less than lovers. So if you have doubts, here are five signs that will help you figure out where you stand:
The line between friends and a couple is blurry
You’re talking all day, sharing your daily details, complimenting each other, maybe dating or flirting, yet don’t identify in front of people as a couple. This means that only one or both sides have the benefits of being in a relationship but it’s not consistent and not committed to the other, it can be called intimacy under the title of being friends. You cannot decide whether both of you are real friends/best friends or a real couple.
There are no future plans
You know every detail about their life and share everything together but you find it extremely weird that you haven't met any family members or friends or mentioned you in the future. This is completely normal when it comes to this type of relationship. It is usually more casual, as they will never introduce you to their family or friends, never talk about spending more time in the future with you, and don’t show the desire to move into a more committed state. They are just enjoying the current time.
Emotional unavailability
You wonder and wish that they have the same feelings for you. With so many uncertainties, you end up feeling anxious, deeply stressed, and bored. In a situationship, you can’t determine your partner’s emotions toward you; they are always hesitant, and sometimes they show intense emotions, and love bomb you then, simply disappear. In some cases, the partner has the desire to develop feelings for the other but can’t force it.
You are not the only one
Are you sure that you are the only one or there’s doubt about it? It’s completely normal if you are overthinking your situation and continuously asking yourself whether your partner is seeing another person or not. This thought is a part of this so-called situationship. Later on, you may discover that you are the non-significant other or a third party for another real relationship.
Lack of commitment
Surprisingly, this is the most obvious sign from the beginning, there is no label for this ship. It lacks exclusivity and boundaries, either they just like your attention and what you offer them; quality time, acts of service, and self-love affirmation, or maybe they have commitment issues.
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