It happens to almost everyone; you meet someone, catch feelings, and then keep wondering if you two are on the same page. During the infatuation phase, when the spark is at its peak, it is so hard to tell whether it is a fling or a good potential for a relationship especially that, as we all know, summer is the season of flings. So, to kill all the uncertainties and the wondering, here is how to tell if your relationship will end when the summer ends.
1. They always invite you to do something last minute.
They don’t really make plans and they invite you to go out last minute. Chances are they are probably checking all their options or more interesting things to be done and they only ask you when they feel bored and lonely. When it is real, they would put more effort into spending time with you, they’d plan in advance, and would make sure to make time for you, instead of only meeting you when they have a couple of useless hours.
2. They are more focused on partying together than on getting to know you better.
They are not focused on spending quality time with you to get to know you on a deeper level as much as they are interested in taking you to parties and large-group hangouts. As much as it is important to spend time doing exciting and fun things, that alone can’t keep the relationship going, but rather it is about building that deep connection, and learning more about one another so that you can decide if this relationship can have a future.
3. They forget important details about you.
Because they are keeping it light and superficial, they barely know anything about you and no matter how many things you share with them about your personal life, they hardly ever pay attention or listen attentively. When they are serious about you, they’d remember to check on you after a meeting you were dreading or an important doctor appointment, they will remember your birthday without a Facebook notification and will know the things you like by heart.
4. They barely take you out on a date.
It’s mostly about his friends and yours and you mainly meet when it’s a group hangout. You don’t spend time alone as much and rarely ever go on a date. This is because they want to keep themselves as detached as possible and keep things at a distance.
5. They are not putting a label on it.
Saving the most important to the last here, as long as they are not putting a label on it, rest assured they are not really invested in this relationship. They go out with you, introduce you to their friends, and make an appearance with you everywhere but never really identify with you as partners. They also barely open up to you or speak about their feelings towards you.
Finally, it is part of our human nature to long for love and companionship. We want to love, feel loved, and fill our lives with a bit of romance. But remember, being on your own is way better than falling for the wrong person or accepting less than what we deserve. Seek true relationships, not momentary glimpses of what may look like love when it is all just a summer fling.
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