First Date Flirts and Fails: How to Leave a Good Impression on Your Night Out

The thrill of the unknown, the inquisitiveness to explore, the sweet talks, and the butterflies are all things we love about first dates. But with all those good feelings and thoughts comes the downside of first dates: the nervousness, the awkward silence, and the fear of making fools out of ourselves. It is normal to get a mix of all those feelings together and start wondering how others carry themselves well and feel very confident and relaxed on a first date. It is simple, they just know what to do and what to avoid, and we’ll share these tips with you.

 

1. Ditch the Clichés

By all means, avoid dull and boring conversation openers such as talking about the weather or how crowded the place is and topics of that sort. Instead, personalize your approach. For instance, if you met through a friend, ask how they got to know each other, or if you met online ask about something interesting you saw on their profile. This will give more room for conversation.

 

2. Listen attentively and actively

Don’t be the one who does all the talking in an attempt to show character, simply because first dates are a two-way street. You need to give them room to talk about themselves too. Embrace the art of active listening, people like being listened to. Pay attention to what your date is saying, ask follow-up questions, and show genuine interest in their experiences and passions.

 

3. Spark Curiosity with Conversation Starters

Ask them about the things they are most passionate about outside of work; this will get you to learn more about their interests and values. You can also ask them about their dream vacation or favorite travel destination, it will reveal a lot about their lifestyle. Share your interests with them as well so you can create an exchange of a conversation.

 

4. Avoid getting too personal.

We know you might be curious about knowing why they broke up with their ex and want to build a clearer picture of their love life, but some things are too soon to ask, at least not until you have built a level of intimacy where they feel comfortable to share, if they want to.

 

5. Be yourself

Saving the best for last:  by all means stay true to yourself, no faking. Nothing builds a strong, genuine connection like authenticity. Don’t pretend to get them to like you, don’t overthink your responses, just be.

 

Finally, dates are meant to be fun, so relax and don’t stress out. Don’t get into a date with the mindset of trying too hard to get them to like you. A first date doesn’t necessarily have to progress into a second one, and that doesn’t mean you are not likable, you simply didn’t click. So, stay confident, and enjoy the moment.