The end of a toxic relationship or a friendship takes a toll on someone’s psyche. It is pretty painful and takes a lot of time to recover from the hurt, anger, and pain they’ve caused. We spend our time recollecting what went wrong and trying to pinpoint the problem and by the time we are done, we can finally see the awful behavior made by the people we thought they’d never hurt us.
This process of healing and understanding toxic traits is enlightening but sometimes, we blame ourselves for not seeing the signs from the start. We feel dumb and foolish that we are too blind, too in love, and too oblivious to see the awful behavior that we are surrounded by. The signs were crystal clear and yet we chose to ignore them because we thought that wouldn’t apply to us or we were too scared to leave.
We hate the fact that we got ourselves in that situation in the first place; that we weren’t being cautious enough or smart enough. But, there’s something we fail to notice, it is better to see the signs late than never seeing them at all.
So, how do we feel good and embrace our past awful relationships and friendships without feeling sad and guilty? And why it’s for the best that we can identify the toxic traits of the people we are with later on?
It’s an Eye Opening Experience
Always remember that everything you encounter in life has a lesson to teach you, and to learn your lessons, mistakes, and slipups must be made. Life doesn’t provide you with a guidebook on how to deal with every single situation that happens, life is a book of mystery and it’s your job to decipher it. Even if it means learning the lesson the hard way. Look at it this way, it’s an eye-opening experience, and many of us have experienced it before. To grow and evolve, you must learn from your mistakes and become stronger from them.
It Gives You More Clarity and More Vision to See Awful Patterns
As we leave the past behind, we enter a new phase in our lives and meet new people. With all the lessons we’ve learned from the past, we can see if the patterns of toxicity are repeating themselves or being made by different people. With more clarity and vision we’ve gained from previous experiences, we can prevent the toxic cycle and walk away from any pain and suffering.
With More Wisdom, You Can Help People Who Face the Same Situation
Every relationship is different that’s for sure, but toxic behavior and awful habits are similar across the board. Seeing our friends or family members go through the same experience as you, allows you to help them and offer a more sympathetic and honest opinion that will make them heal and get out of these situations. And for them, to feel seen and that what they are going through is not a singular incident, it makes them realize that they can get through it and be more stronger.
In the end, it might seem like a curse for not seeing the toxicity sooner, but it is a blessing in disguise. For we can see it better now and use it to help others. Experiencing things late is always better than not experiencing them at all. In this case, ignorance is not a blessing, and awareness is a gift.
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