How do you Differentiate Between Being Neglected and Being Loved Differently

There are many ways to show love to your significant other or family members. It’s been divided into five categories: physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, and acts of service. Each one’s love language is a way of showing their love and appreciation for you. 

 

With that in mind, some people question if their loved one cares about them because they don’t voice their love the way they want them to. So a wave of hesitation, frustration, and anger may ensue for feeling like the other party doesn’t care. 

 

While some people may have faced unfortunate relationships that showed them little to no love, not all people fall into that category, and especially not all people can show affection and care the way you do. So how to differentiate between being neglected and being loved differently? 

 

Their Actions and Words are Clear Indicators of Love, So Pay Attention

 

Let’s say, for example, your love language is words of affirmation and your partner or friends are about an act of service person, while you need constant affirmation that you are loved and cherished and that your existence doesn’t bother them, the other person doesn’t feel the need to say anything, because, in their minds, they already know that person and like to hang out with them, so why bother saying anything while I can show it in reality? Their logic boils down to “Actions speak louder than words” so they just do what they do and don't feel the need to say anything because if they don’t like a situation they’re in, they can leave. So with that in mind, keep an eye on your partner or friend’s behavior, do they like hanging out with you and do they enjoy your company? Or do they just come and go? 

 

 

Everyone’s Personality and Circumstances is Different, So Don’t Judge or Jump to Conclusion 

 

 

Everyone’s love language can be different, and so is their personality, and circumstances. For example, someone can be extremely social, and outgoing, and his/her love language is quality time, however, due to their work or personal life, they cannot spend time with you, even though they want to. Does this make them a neglectful person? No, because life keeps us busy and it’s not easy to meet up with everyone all the time, from here, we should give the other person a break and let them know that we care and we are here for them whenever they need us.

 

 

You can Never Go Wrong with Communicating

 

If you still have doubts about your partner or friends that there’s a lack of connection and intimacy, then ask them if there’s something wrong or what happened that caused a shift.

Sometimes, the answer can be that they are cautious or traumatized by past experiences, that they need time to be able to trust again and open up, so remember it’s not your fault and it’s their healing journey. 

In the end, always remember that love is a journey, with its ups and downs. So embrace yourself and don’t be afraid to be you, and you will be fine.