The hit comedy “Bolbol Hayran” was released 13 years ago. It starred Ahmed Helmy, Zeina, Sherry Adel, and Amy Samir Ghanim. The story revolves around Bolbol, a confused man who is unable to decide whether he should marry Yasmeen or Hala. The two women are completely opposites of each other, which makes Bolbol even more confused. The movie was a huge success due to its humor and performances; however, we’d argue that the movie’s main concept is under-appreciated and isn’t discussed enough. So what does the movie tell us about relationships? And why should we keep the movie’s message close to our hearts and minds when we go out and date?
So the movie’s plot is Bolbol falling in love with two women who are the complete opposite of each other. Yasmine (played by Zeina) is an independent woman who doesn’t seek validation or approval and is determined, self-sufficient, and strong. She has a mind of her own and that’s what attracted Bolbol to her. the other woman, Hala (played by Sherry Adel) is a kind, co-dependent naive woman who just wants a man to love and take care of her. Constantly relying on Bolbol in every aspect of her life, which again, makes him feel better as a man.
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What the Movie Is Trying to Say About Relationships
Throughout the movie, the things and qualities that Bolbol liked about Hala and Yasmine, are the same qualities that he starts to dislike. He sees Hala as too independent and confident, like she’s ready to dispose of him at any time, which threatens his masculinity. On the other hand, Yasmine is too dependent, needy, and weak, which frustrates him even more and makes him feel like he has to carry all the weight of the world on his shoulders.
Never in the entire movie has Bolbol made an effort to change, he wants his love interest to accept him for who he is but dislikes the same qualities that attracted him to them.
Despite the movie being told in Bolbol’s POV, he isn’t a reliable narrator, and the movie showcases how Bolbol is selfish and inconsiderate.
The movie tackles how you should be careful of your choices in relationships and that there’s no “Perfect Woman or Man” Any person you meet has flaws but what flaws are you willing to brush off and accept and what flaws are simply deal breakers? Bolbol Haryan is a good title for the movie because he’s a confused man who cannot work up the courage to make a decision and choose. Does he like independent and confident Hala or does he like Yasmine? The movie isn’t painting the two women as perfect women, nor does it villanize their traits, instead it shows how Bolbol is not willing to compromise.
Relationships are About Finding Balance and Meeting the Needs of Each Other
In short, you cannot fall in love with someone for having traits that suit your needs, only to hate them for continuing to behave the way they behaved from the start.
A lot of us do the same thing Bolbol did in the movie, we begin liking a person only to be shocked and appalled when they don’t want to change the very thing we liked about them. this is a toxic way of approaching relationships if you only think that a person should change to suit your needs, shouldn’t you be willing to change as well?
Relationships are a two-way street, it takes time, compromise, and effort to keep them going. The moment you enter a relationship, you must endure and accept the other person for who they are, flaws and all, and you should try to adjust and accommodate to their needs the same way they should adjust and accommodate to yours.
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