Sometimes, a relationship had already reached its end before both of you acknowledge it out loud and call it quits. While every relationship has its fair share of its ups and downs, there is a certain point where you need to understand that it has reached a dead end. Relationships are built on trust, mutual understanding, respect, intimacy, and other important factors. Now, if one of these elements is missing to the point where all efforts failed to bring it back, then this relationship is standing on turbulent grounds. We sometimes want to believe that this is just a bad phase that will pass on its own, but denying facts do not really change them. If your relationship dynamics to a point where it has become hard for both of you to continue together, these are signs that tell your relationship is already over.
1. You have lost your emotional connection.
To make things clear first, you cannot assess your emotional connection today based on a comparison with the infatuation you experienced in the beginning of your relationship. But rather have a wider look on what your emotional connection looks like over the lifetime of the relationship. Do you still open up to each other? Do you speak your mind openly or do you feel there is a barrier between you two? If you can no longer have a deep conversation, joke and have fun like the old days, or show your vulnerability to one another than you are probably losing your emotional connection.
2. Communication has become aggressive.
You notice that every normal conversation becomes a fight, you are too consumed in fault-finding, and you are barely on the same page or agree on the same thing. Apart from fighting, on the other side of the spectrum there is the lack of communication altogether. You resort to silent treatment and avoid having a talk with one another. The end of healthy, productive communication in any relationship is the end of the relationship itself.
3. You only remember the bad memories.
When you come to think of your partner you only remember the bad memories. It because of all the anger or resentment you hold inside against them. It hold you back from recalling any good memories and have all your focus on the ugly fights, the letdowns, and the shortcomings. You can tell that a relationship is not meant to last longer when all your great memories are wiped out, not because you can’t remember them, but because the anger inside you has chosen to focus only on everything that is bad.
4. You are questioning your future together.
Even worse, you no longer picture a future together with your partner. There is nothing you look forward to doing with them any longer, you are no longer keen on making future plan together. If anything, you keep preparing yourself for what you need to do with your life once the relationship is over.
5. Physical intimacy no longer appeals to you.
Besides intimacy on an emotional level, you experience lack of interest in physical intimacy to the point where you make up excuses to avoid spending time together. The relationship starts feeling empty, dull, and cold and you begin to long for space away from your partner more than longing for a connection. If you feel that you are no longer interested in any sort of physical contact with your partner, this raises a flag.
The point here is not to end the relationship as soon as you begin to notice any of these signs, But rather, it is a call for you to pause and think how long have you been experiencing such issues, what you have done about it, and to make sure you’ve given the relationship the best you can before you call it quits.
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