3 Time You Are Fooling Yourself When You Decide to Forgive & Forget

When we get hurt by the dearest to our hearts, we like to give them the benefit of the doubt because our minds do not want to believe they could do this to us. But the question is, all our mistakes forgivable? Can we always give a second chance? The answer, from a humble point of view, is no! Some mistakes can shake a friendship no matter how strong its base, and will put some core values to question. Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong, it is true, but not everyone will be grateful for this forgiveness and will even take it for granted. Here are 3 times you are fooling yourself when you decide to forgive and forget.

If they badmouth you. Someone who truly loves you will never speak about you behind your back, not even allow it to happen from someone else in your absence. Some people would consider it venting to let the frustration out, but again, why not talk with you directly. A true friend will only tell it to your face, and will never whisper behind your back. It simply reflects the bad intentions they have towards you.

If they break your trust. A person who breaks your trust and walks around revealing your secrets once a fallout happens between you two is not someone you can give second chances. This type of person lacks integrity and can’t be trusted again because the next time something happens between you, the least to expect is them pitting people against you. An untrustworthy person will lie, betray, manipulate, and a lot of other things along the line.

If they use your weaknesses against you.  We open up and show our vulnerable side to the closest to our hearts, otherwise what’s the point. But if one day, the one you thought is close to you used your weaknesses against you and rubbed salt to wounds that hurt you the most, rest assured this person doesn’t love you or care about your feelings at all. A person who genuinely loves you won’t press where it hurts, they won’t use your opening up moments against you, and if they do, they should have no room in your life.