Some people know how to handle their emotions and feelings better than others. They are good with the way they carry themselves and know how to manage it well on the inside too. They know how to pull themselves back out of emotional turmoil and are mostly at peace with themselves and how they feel. This, our friends, is what we call emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence has been such an interesting and hot topic for a long period of time. This is because of how being emotionally intelligent can help you in every aspect of life, with your family, friends, relationships, and work. In fact, Emotional Intelligence or EQ matters as much as IQ when it comes to living a happier and more successful life.
What is emotional intelligence?
Emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive, evaluate, and manage your emotions. The ability to control emotions alone is not considered emotional intelligence but rather it is the ability to interpret and analyze how you feel first.
Emotional Intelligence consists of four branches or skills:
1. The ability to perceive emotions
2. The ability to reason with emotions
3. The ability to understand emotions
4. The ability to manage emotions
What are the things that emotionally intelligent people do differently than others?
1. They pay attention to what they feel. They take the time to pause and ask themselves how do they really feel and what triggered this feeling by identifying the underlying causes. They are aware of the influence of their feelings on themselves and those around them.
2. They embrace and accept their bad emotions. Instead of escaping how they feel, they take the time to process painful feelings without feeling ashamed of their vulnerability, then let go and move on.
3. They are able to regulate their emotions. They think before they take action, and they respond to situations, not react. They never take decisions when they are emotionally charged and never allow their emotions rule their life.
4. They’re flexible and adaptable. Emotionally intelligent people are aware that nothing stays the same, hence, they adapt to the situation and accept change instead of fighting it to the point of draining themselves.
5. They handle their mistakes with compassion. They never get too harsh on themselves and understand well that everyone can do mistakes, and that we learn through mistakes. So, instead of getting in the habit of negative self-talk or criticism, they think of how they can do better in the future.
6. They are assertive and know how to set boundaries. Paying attention to their emotional wellbeing, emotionally intelligent people are assertive when it comes to things they don’t accept. They know how to be friendly, warm, and polite, but at the same time don’t allow their boundaries to be crossed and voice their concern with a firm yet considerate attitude.
7. They are forward-moving and don’t dwell on the past. Emotionally intelligent people live in the moment and never look behind. They understand that nothing useful comes out of reliving the past in their minds. Instead, they have a positive approach towards life and always move forward.