With all the ‘Relationship Goals’ and ‘Couple Goals’ Instagram photos, it makes perfect sense why many people are not satisfied with their relationships. But, if you think this is what relationships look like the entire time, sorry to burst your bubble, it’s not. Apart from the fundamentals of all relationships such as respect, trust, understanding, and care, ‘relationship goals’ is such a flawed concept simply because a fixated set of goals cannot work with all relationships alike. Some might choose to spend a very lavish Valentine’s celebration while others can find ultimate happiness in a simple candlelit dinner at home. Whether your team A or team B there are no guidelines, it is a matter of preferences.
‘Relationship Goals’ have made us grow unhappy with what we have.
You might be in a very healthy relationship which you’ve become frustrated with just because it doesn’t look as extravagant as those you find on social media. The fact that you don’t exchange expensive gifts or don’t expend your summers on a yacht in the Caribbean doesn’t make what you have is less valuable.
‘Relationship Goals’ have made us far from being realistic.
Did you ever come across a couple posting about their fights over house chores or financials? No. You don’t get to see the daily struggles or the drama. It is not always as exotic as it looks, what’s posted for the public is usually the furthest from the reality they’re living.
‘Relationship Goals’ taught us to do constant comparisons.
Focusing on what others have and dedicating too much attention to how others have it differently than you take your attention away from your relationship and directs it towards others. When you grow on the habit of constantly comparing what you have with the rest, sooner or later you’ll sabotage your love and become less grateful for what you have.
‘Relationship Goals’ have made us less appreciative of the little things.
Small gestures have become less noticeable and appreciated because what we mostly see now are posh things and extravagant proposals. In this day and age, love is measured based on materialistic things rather than those simple little acts that show real love.
Everyone has it their own way, and that makes neither you nor them wrong or right. Focus on what you have, make the ‘Relationship Goals’ ones that you set for yourself, not goals based on what you see around. Yes, it is part of human nature wanting to be better or have it better, but it’s not always greener on the other side.